The woman is herself – and lends a hand. We’ve put together some tips on masturbation that can help you improve your solo game and (re)discover your body. We also clear up a few outdated clichés. Porn is only for men? No way…

Masturbation as a stopgap?

Masturbation is a gift. It is fun, for most women – in contrast to sexual intercourse – it even guarantees an orgasm, it is healthy and the most normal thing in the world. Some women satisfy themselves because they just feel like it, others it helps to fall asleep and as a relaxation after a stressful day. Masturbation is also the best way to get to know yourself and your needs better. And only those who know what they like can live it out with their partner during sex. Because how should he know what you like, if you don’t know it yourself…?

That’s why masturbation is no longer considered a mere substitute satisfaction for sexless singles, but a very special form of sexuality that exists alongside the sex life in a partnership. Studies show that while men masturbate more often when they are having little sex, this connection is not apparent in women. They masturbate both as singles and in an intact relationship lustfully, if not even more lustfully.
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Masturbation – Tips for your solo

Of course, every woman has her own preferences and techniques when it comes to masturbation – therefore, there is no ultimate instruction manual. As is often the case, the proof of the pudding is in the eating. The possibilities of pleasuring yourself are countless. You can arouse and satisfy yourself in many different ways – through friction, pressure, vibrations, hot head cinema and playing with your own muscles. We’ve collected some tips on masturbation, as well as tricks and techniques for you that can help you make the solo even more intense.

No false shame!

Masturbation is not cheating. You can think about whatever or whoever you want. Your (dirty) thoughts belong to you alone! It’s perfectly okay to masturbate not only to your partner, but also to think about your boss, your colleague, the nice waiter from the other night, the pretty woman from the subway, your favorite soccer team or Ryan Gosling. Don’t be ashamed of your fantasies, but use them as a template for your next solo. Dreaming of a threesome, an orgy, a wild BDSM session? Fine. So forget the guilty conscience because you dream about someone else and enjoy the mind game. Even grandma knew: You can get your appetite – you eat at home!

Porn as a turn-on

Masturbation to pornGenerally, porn is considered a male domain. However, one should never forget that women also enjoy erotic films – and not only supposed “women’s porn”. It doesn’t always have to be soft lighting and piano music. Women also enjoy a hardcore flick now and then. However, if you don’t like deep throat strangulation sounds or facials, you should take a look at feminist porn. The industry is booming and women are getting their money’s worth – in front of and behind the camera. Because feminist porn is about all parties enjoying sex, it’s about equality and respect and eroticism far away from horny housewives and craftsmen.

Get wet

No, you’re not abnormal if you don’t pamper yourself to jazz and candlelight for hours on end. Very few women do that. Often they satisfy themselves – like men – quick and dirty under the covers. Who has so much time? But if you want to really switch off and treat yourself to something special, a hot bath is the ultimate. In warm water you can really relax, lean your knees left and right against the edge of the tub and enjoy the water jet of the shower head on your vagina. Play with temperature and water pressure. But be careful: too hot water or too strong a shower jet can overstimulate your clitoris. Also, don’t point the jet into your vagina, this will ruin the natural vaginal flora and can lead to infections.

Upside down

The majority of women enjoy masturbation while lying on their back – legs either bent, spread or closed. A tip: Turn over on your stomach and reach under your body with one or both hands to your vagina. This way you can enjoy not only your own touches but also the targeted pressure on the clitoris by your body weight. In this position you can also dare freehand pleasure and spoil yourself by rubbing against the mattress, a pillow or a rolled-up blanket that you put between your thighs. This way, your clitoris will be stimulated only indirectly, which many women find more pleasant than direct touch.

Improvise – Do’s and Don’ts

If you ever get tired of “manual labor”, simply improvise. Stroking with a powder brush or the back of the electric toothbrush can be very exciting. But wild experiments should be taken with a grain of salt. The phallic vegetables popular in porn can have germs that can cause inflammation or even break off. Pointy objects are a no go, as they can cause serious injuries. The worst case scenario is to insert an open bottle. The movement creates negative pressure and the bottle is sucked in. Sex toys of all kinds that are hygienically manufactured and made of soft, tested materials are best. Here you can find a toy guide to find out which lovetoy suits you best.

Masturbation tips for new techniques

Pearl diver

The majority of women rub their clitoris during masturbation. To find out what exactly gives you pleasure, vary the speed and movements – circling, rubbing, pressing: whatever you like is allowed. For example, place your thumb and index finger on the clitoris and roll your fingers back and forth, varying the speed and pressure as you like. The listen-who-hammer technique is also popular: gently pull the labia apart with one hand and expose the clitoris. With one finger of the other hand, gently tap your pleasure center.

Finger acrobat

A vaginal orgasm is rarer than a clitoral orgasm. Still, some women like stimulation in their vagina – at the beginning, in the middle part or for the grand finale. To do this, place your index and little finger on your labia. Insert the middle and ring fingers and move them as you like: back and forth, up and down or in circles. In addition, you can apply pleasant pressure on the mons veneris with the other palm.

The best of both worlds

Of course, clitoral and vaginal masturbation techniques can be combined for an even more intense pleasure experience – double is better. Tip: A little lube makes the stimulation even more enjoyable.
In the back
Why not? The anus is a highly erogenous zone. Discovering it yourself first is a good preparation for possible anal sex with your partner. A gentle massage can trigger incredible feelings. To do this, stroke your anal region with a finger. If you want more, carefully insert your index finger and gently move it back and forth. Try it in the bathtub first, if you’re worried that the adventure won’t go over quite as cleanly. However, your concerns will evaporate. Important: Lube is an absolute must for anal play!

Above the belt

If you still have one hand free, you can also stimulate your nipples. Lightly stroke your buds with your fingers until they stand up. Then you can roll them between your thumb and forefinger and gently pinch them. Especially just before orgasm, stroking your nipples is a great extra kick.